It’s difficult to believe that David Bowie died nearly six years ago. One of the most tragic aspects of his death at the age of 69 was that he was in the middle of a career revival, having just released the critically acclaimed albums “The Next Day” (2013) and “Blackstar” (2016).
In a rare and candid interview on “The Today Show,” Bowie’s widow, retired supermodel, and entrepreneur Iman, 66, explained why it has taken her six years to properly grieve her husband’s death.
The pair married in 1992 and had a daughter, Lexi Jones, who is 21 years old. Both Bowie and Iman have children from previous marriages.
After returning to the couple’s estate during the lockdown, Iman was able to properly grieve in 2020. She had ignored her feelings in the following years to help her daughter deal with the tragic loss.
“I had a daughter who was a teenager when her father passed away, so I was really more concentrated in helping her go through her grief,” Iman said on Today. “But I thought, oh yes, I did go through my grief, but I actually did not.
“Last year, I went to my house estate, this beautiful property that I haven’t spent time there since my husband passed away, and there I was stuck for the year and I was forced to deal with it,” she said. “All of the sudden grief knocked on the door and became a companion. And I went through all of it, and now it is the joy that I remember.”
Iman is happy to have reached a stage in her life where she can finally accept the pleasant aspects of her 24-year marriage to Bowie.
“I think there are days that are harder than others,” she said. “I don’t think it will ever go away, but the acceptance of it, and the remembrance of the joy, rather than saying every memory that, ‘Oh, I wish he was here, I wish we could experience this together.’ Now I remember the 26 joyful years I had with my husband.”
When her daughter asked if she’d ever married again, Iman had an immediate response.
“No,” she told Hoda Kotb. “People say to me when they talk, ‘Oh I loved your late husband,’ and I said, ‘He’s not my late husband, he’s my husband,’ so that’s how I feel about it. This was truly the love of my life, and I just wait until I meet him again.”
Bowie is no longer alive, but Iman cherishes the memories the two were able to create and keeps them close to her heart.
“I think at the end of our days, the only thing we will have if we are lucky is our memories,” she said to a crying Kotb. “That’s the thing that we will have and will sustain us after the person passes away.”